This is tough…This is not the post I planned to write today, in fact, it’s not a post I ever imagined having to write. How do you write a post to say goodbye to someone you never expected to go? Someone whose last conversation with you was full of ideas for new projects and plans to get together in just a few weeks? Suddenly the fragility and unfairness of life have come crashing in and I am stunned.
Spouse and I consider the Washington, DC area to be our hometown. This was the place he, Spawn, and I began our life together. In the ten years we lived there we made many friends who became family. It was also where I found my first artistic family, in which Terri Allen played a major part. She was part of a group of musicians, artists, and actors who took me under their wing, and became my first friends and mentors.
To be honest, I don’t really recall my first meeting with Terri. Suddenly she was just there, a part of it all, helping, advising, and being my friend. Terri with her great laugh, exuberant hair and huge heart could always be counted on to listen, support, and to offer wisdom when needed.
Terri understood commitment whether it was to a lyric, a project or a friend. And once she committed she worked! She was not one to come up with an idea and let others do the heavy lifting; If she proposed a project she could be counted on to put her entire being into its success.
I never knew Terri to hold a grudge, spread gossip or say an unkind word about another performer. We shared a goal of creating a community of singers bonded by a mutual love of music. We wanted a place where people felt welcome and supported each other. To this day, the DC community is the warmest most open group of people I have ever had the privilege to know. Much of this is due entirely to Terri.
I can’t find the words to say goodbye to this force of nature, my beautiful friend who sang with her whole heart and soul. All I can say is Thank you. Thank you, Terri, for being welcoming and loving, for being part of my crazy ideas and coming up with more than a few of your own. Your graciousness, your humor and your total commitment will forever inspire me. You have taken a piece of my heart with you, and I will never be the same.